GUEST POST | I'm Not Perfect: Debra's Story.

Hello lovely readers, it's time for the second guest article for the I'm Not Perfect campaign. Over the last few days, with every post for the campaign, I've strongly identified with its content. I commend these lovely women for writing about such personal aspects of themselves. Perhaps, that is why I am such good friends with these lovely people.

The lovely Debra Lane from Words Across the Oceans wrote this rather hard-hitting, personal article about her struggles with self-esteem, weight issues, depression and the emotional pain in life. Within this resides an important message; as an outsider, when we look at others and read their story, we realize just how much we're held back by these fears. It's a wake-up call to begin to let go of the inhibitions and live life.
Definition of Perfect:
adj. Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be….
Hmmm I am so far from this definition…. and I am imperfect in so many ways! 
As time is flying by faster each year and the body is changing rapidly as I head for the next big milestone age of 50, in not so many years to come… I am by no means perfect and never have been… I have always hated my body and at times my self quite a lot… I have been over-weight since my 20′s, suffered from depression and have been hurt a lot in life both emotionally and physically… People can let you down and we can let ourselves down too… but the one thing I’ve learnt through all my lessons so far is that we can’t control others, we can only control ourselves…  
In my line of work though I have come across some amazing people who are facing much tougher roads… and some are much younger than me… SO I am learning as I get older to just try and let go and live each day as best I can because who knows how long we have to enjoy it!?!  
And when Tammy asked if I would like to take part in this Campaign of “Embracing the Imperfections we behold” I was happy to… as it is a great idea to stop, breathe and try to appreciate ourselves for exactly who we are… Imperfections and all ;-) 
© Debra Lane.
I also came across this beautiful poem 20 years ago I would like to share with you all…

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, 
and remember what peace there may be in silence. 
As far as possible without surrender 
be on good terms with all persons. 
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; 
and listen to others, 
even the dull and the ignorant; 
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, 
they are vexations to the spirit. 
If you compare yourself with others, 
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. 
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; 
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. 
Exercise caution in your business affairs; 
for the world is full of trickery. 
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; 
many persons strive for high ideals; 
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, 
do not feign affection. 
Neither be cynical about love; 
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment 
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, 
gracefully surrendering the things of youth. 
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. 
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. 
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. 
Beyond a wholesome discipline, 
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, 
no less than the trees and the stars; 
you have a right to be here. 
And whether or not it is clear to you, 
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, 
whatever you conceive Him to be, 
and whatever your labors and aspirations, 
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, 
it is still a beautiful world. 
Be cheerful. 
Strive to be happy.

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