Red My Lips | Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

Hello lovely readers. Today, I would like to stray from usual articles to discuss something personal and serious. We are officially in the month of April and this month is a particularly important one. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
Sexual Violence (n)
Any sexual act, attempt to obtain a sexual act, unwanted sexual comments or advances, or acts to traffic, or otherwise directed, against a person's sexuality using coercion, by any person regardless of their relationship to the victim, in any setting, including but not limited to home and work.

Sexual assault. It is among the many serious subjects that are all too common and wrongfully neglected. This occurrence is one of the darkest inadequacies of this race and it happens every second. As each moment passes, another person is sexually assaulted. Just 68% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police and an agonizing 98% of assailants will never spend a single day in jail.

Sexual assault is so common and sporadic in purpose that it has grown its own clichés. It is neither the clothes worn nor the make-up chosen. It is not the amount of alcohol consumed. It is not the manner of acting. It is not about personality. It is not anything.

Victims or potential victims are merely an object to the attacker. It doesn’t matter whether they are intoxicated, or they have a personal vendetta against us. They could be familiar face or a total stranger. It is their mentality and their mentality alone that makes their decision to assault us.

Being sexually assaulted is not a laughing matter. It happens every moment of every day. But, like Philomela, a woman in Greek Mythology, victims are often unable to communicate the crime. Like Tereus did to Philomela and the Empress’ sons of Titus Andronicus did to Lavina, when a victim is assaulted, their tongues are cut out and their hands are chopped off; leaving them speechless and completely silent.

Every year, there is an average of over 293,000 reported victims of sexual assault. Every day we, as citizens, probably walk passed people ― boys, girls, women, and men ― who have been sexually assaulted. We are oblivious to their struggles, deaf to their cries of the crimes committed against them, blind to the scars that riddle their body.

But, what if we could stop this?

What if we could stop being blind and start listening?

2015 © Tammy-Louise Wilkins
The war of obliterating sexual assault is a war that shall wage for a long time. However, we – each and every one of us – can help to make that war just a bit shorter.

As it is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, let’s start talking. Let’s raise awareness about the realities and prevalence of sexual violence and help educate the community. Let’s raise our voices and help this society to understand this all too common occurrence and prevent it from happening.

For the entire month of April, I will be joining the clan of non-profit organisation, Red My Lips, in raising awareness about sexual assault through the wearing of red lipstick.

I would like to ask you all, lovely readers, if you could join me by doning red lips (or red attire) and start talking about this neglected subject. If you would like to take part in their campaign, take a ‪ ‎Red My Lips Selfie‬ (like mine displayed left) and send it to me via Twitter (@TammyLWilkins) using the hashtage #RedMyLipsSelfie!

We can help and we will help.

We are the system and we can stop failing one another.

In 2011, Danielle Tansino was raped by a friend of her housemate whilst out with friends.  After going through the trauma of a court battle, she was told her attacker would not be prosecuted as the juror discriminated the case because she drank.

After battling upset of sexual violence myths and the lack of communication about the subject, Tansino launched Red My Lips, a non-profit organisation that specialises in bringing clarity to what sexual assault is, how it happens, why it happens, helping and supporting victims, and clarifying the lack of truth in the myths surrounding the subject.

By wearing red lips, Red My Lips aids supporters and victims to speak out against the myths and negative attitudes towards victims. It achieves the mission of becoming visible. It is the campaign that is slowly transforming our culture of sexual violence by “educating, inspiring, and mobilizing a global community to red their lips, raise their voices, and create real change.”

2015 © Tammy-Louise Wilkins

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  1. Amazing, you're doing such great things, promoting such an important yet still overlooked message!! You look beautiful and I will definitely be sending my red lip selfie to you this week.
    Katie X

    1. Thank you ever so much, Katie! I absolutely agree, this subject is so terribly neglected. We have shows such as The Wright Stuff and The Big Question that are solely made to discuss burning topics, I just wish they'd address this burning topic.

      Thank you and I adored your Red My Lips selfie. It was gorgeous! x

  2. I like bloggers who look beyond trivial topics like fashion & makeup every once in a while
    Thanks for shedding light on this



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